I think most would agree that school days are the best.
Carefree…
Fun filled…
Innocent…
Pampered…
Friendship….
For me the best days were my graduation days. My college days. My hostel days.
It was my first experience of living in a hostel. Living away from my parents, away from my comfort zone. Stepping in to a different culture, with people coming from different backgrounds, having different thought processes. Of course I did not have the sensitivity or the maturity to understand, accept and cherish the differences of people I met then like I have now. But, perhaps it was there where it was embedded. It was probably the different people I met, shaped how I thought about differences of opinion. It taught me how indifference’s need not always end up in breaking friendships. It just means accepting and enjoying them. It probably makes the relationships stronger.
Looking back 8 years, shows someone, who would not understand the myriad colors and shapes forming around her. She could not fathom the thinking some of her own species could have. Initially, along with the adjustment to the preliminary culture shock, came the rude reality that the innocence of the 18 something individuals had been ripped off long back. Not all of course, and not in very horrific sense of experiences, but taken away nevertheless. From where I was coming from, I did not have to prove anything to anybody. I had had a privileged childhood, but no comparisons to the opposite gender or anybody for that matter. Around me I could see innumerable examples of beautiful, creative, intelligent, girls, at times fighting for their existence. If it were not to exist in the society, perhaps their homes, perhaps their peer groups, perhaps their own notions to be fulfilled. Of course some of them had to be rude to others to instill in themselves that they are better than others. They had to push forward their talents in the ugliest ways because that is the only way they would get noticed. Some had to fight on the lowliest of things because they had to prove they are not the ones to take things lying down. And some, well, some were plain idiots.
But, no, I did not realize it then. I did not realize the thought processes that might have gone in to the different behaviors. I had to enjoy my 3 years with the most amazing people I could ever be with!
I for one had the absolute luck of finding the one of the most horrible roommates ever. She was dominating, a little of a crack head and over all her debacles led to her leaving the institute.
But, where is the luck?
The luck was after she left, I found the most amazing friends I ever could. I had two fantastic roommates. I guess there was some awkwardness initially. We didn’t know what would piss the other off. We tread carefully, each coming from a past experience that was not so good. But, the wave lengths matched. The humor matched. The thought processes matched. Somehow, we knew what the other was thinking or would think. We accompanied one another to late night bathroom visits, we sat next to each other when the other missed home, we cried together when exams came calling. Somehow, everything came together.
The three musketeers found four other mad capers around them. Seven of them, laughing, running, dancing, and most importantly eating, formed the day. Somewhere in between, we had fights, disagreements, ‘discussions’ and though not all forgotten today, most of it is forgiven.
We found ourselves in each other, and yet each had a totally different personality and a totally different thought process. Each had a child like quality in them yet displayed varied degrees of maturity when the situation demanded.
Where one was fond of orderliness and organized cupboards, the other for the life of hers could not fold clothes properly. Where one loved to read, the other got by on understanding the summaries of the novels! One could dramatize each situation, while the other offered sensibility and stability to the madness.
The sad days were celebrated together. The happy days were always there. The birthdays attracted envious glances from those around. Our birthdays in itself could have been a lesson in management, but that is a post for some other day.
It somehow did not feel right to have coffee without making at least 3 cups. One could not, go to the market without the other and it was just wrong to go without a never ending list of things to be bought for the lazy ones. Be it the winter afternoons under the trees eating stale parathas or chilling night with hot coffee, the days and the nights were enjoyed. The nights on the terrace were spent listening to soft music in the background and discussing possibilities, dreams and desires well beyond our realms. Perhaps most of our wardens hated us, but not because we created a ruckus, but we seemed so happy.
The best part?
We all stayed together. We fought, probably not talked for days, but we stayed together. We shared cupboards, clothes, shoes, shampoo, food, stories, crushes, our biggest fears, our stupidest jokes, everything, but we stayed together. Whether or not we enjoyed together, we came together when the other needed us to. Through the 3 years, the mad capers, the incredible friends never changed their rooms. They stayed right there, next to each other, for each other…..
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